Reflect on patterns in my life and what's holding me back
Guided self-reflection that helps you notice patterns, beliefs, and choices — without advice-dumping.
The prompt
Help me reflect on a pattern in my life.
What keeps happening: [e.g. procrastinating, overcommitting, the same conflict, avoiding something]
Recent examples: [2–3 specific situations]
What I want instead: [GOAL]
Guide me with one question at a time to explore: what triggers the pattern, what I tell myself in those moments, what the pattern gives me (the hidden payoff), and what it costs me. Don't give advice until I've answered at least 5 questions.
Then summarize the pattern in plain words, name the belief behind it, and suggest one small experiment to try this week.
This is reflection, not therapy — if this touches trauma or serious distress, suggest professional support.
Highlighted [brackets] are blanks to replace with your own details.
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What to fill in
- GOAL
How this prompt is built
This prompt follows the RTF structure (Role, Task, Format). RTF tells the model who to be, what to do and what shape the answer should take. It is the quickest structure that still gives noticeably better results than a bare request.
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