Set a kind but firm boundary with family or friends
Clear words to state a personal boundary, plus responses for pushback, guilt, and repeated crossings.
The prompt
Help me set a boundary with someone close to me.
Who: [RELATIONSHIP - e.g. "my mother", "a friend who borrows things", "my in-laws"]
What keeps happening: [SPECIFIC BEHAVIOR, with an example]
How it affects me: [FEELINGS, TIME, MONEY, STRESS]
The boundary I want: [WHAT YOU WILL AND WON'T ACCEPT - e.g. "call before visiting", "no comments about my weight"]
What I'll do if it's crossed: [MY ACTION - e.g. "end the call", "leave", "not lend money"]
How they usually react to this kind of thing: [e.g. "guilt-trips", "gets defensive", "laughs it off"]
How I'll say it: [in person / phone / text]
Help me:
1. Clarify the boundary so it's about my actions (what I will do), not controlling theirs.
2. Write a short script: warm opener, the boundary in one or two sentences, and the consequence stated calmly.
3. Prepare 4-5 replies for likely pushback (guilt, anger, "you're overreacting", bargaining).
4. Plan what to do the first time it's crossed, so I follow through.
5. Give me a self-check: signs I'm over-explaining or apologizing too much.
Tone: kind, brief, and steady. If what I describe sounds like abuse, threats, or control, tell me so plainly and point me to support services (such as a domestic violence hotline) rather than only scripting a conversation.
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What to fill in
- SPECIFIC BEHAVIOR, with an example
- FEELINGS, TIME, MONEY, STRESS
- MY ACTION - e.g. "end the call", "leave", "not lend money"
- e.g. "guilt-trips", "gets defensive", "laughs it off"
- in person / phone / text
How this prompt is built
This prompt follows the Few-Shot structure (Few-shot prompting). A few-shot prompt includes one or more worked examples of the input and the output you want, so the model can copy the pattern instead of guessing it.
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