Check whether a relationship behavior is healthy or a red flag

Help me think through whether something in my relationship is healthy. Relationship type: [partner / dating / friend / family member] How long: [TIME] The behaviors that concern me, with examples: [e.g. "checks my phone", "gets angry when I see friends", "controls money", "puts me down in front of others", "makes me feel guilty for saying no"] How often, and has it changed over time: [FREQUENCY, TREND] How I feel around them: [e.g. "on edge", "walking on eggshells", "mostly happy but confused"] What happens when I raise it: [THEIR RESPONSE] Please: 1. Explain, for each behavior I listed, what healthy vs. concerning versions look like, in plain language, without diagnosing anyone. 2. Describe common patterns of controlling or coercive behavior (isolation, monitoring, financial control, threats, intimidation, constant criticism), and note which, if any, match what I described. 3. Describe what a healthy relationship of this type usually feels like, so I have a comparison. 4. Give me reflection questions to clarify my own view. 5. Suggest next steps that fit what I described, from a direct conversation to talking to someone I trust or a counselor. If what I describe includes fear, threats, physical harm, sexual coercion, stalking, or control of money or movement, say clearly that this is not my fault, point me to a domestic violence hotline for confidential advice and safety planning, and suggest using a private device or deleting this chat if someone monitors me. If I'm in immediate danger, tell me to call emergency services.