Turn a complaint into a clear, kind request
Rewrite frustrated words for a partner, roommate, or family member into a specific request that is more likely to be heard.
The prompt
Help me turn a complaint into a request someone can actually act on.
Who I'm talking to: [e.g. "my partner", "my roommate", "my teenage son"]
What I want to say right now (unfiltered is fine): [e.g. "You never help with anything and I'm sick of it"]
The specific situation behind it: [WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENS, WHEN]
What I actually want them to do: [IF YOU KNOW]
How I'll say it: [in person / text]
Rewrite it using this structure:
1. Observation: what happened, stated as a fact anyone could see, without "always" or "never."
2. Feeling: how I feel, using "I feel..." (not "I feel like you...").
3. Need: what matters to me underneath it (rest, fairness, respect, connection).
4. Request: one specific, doable action with a time frame, asked as a real request they can discuss.
Return:
- The rewritten request (2-4 sentences), plus a more casual version that doesn't sound scripted.
- A short note on which words in my original were likely to trigger defensiveness, and why.
- How to respond if they push back or bring up something I did.
- A follow-up line for noticing and thanking them when they do it.
Highlighted [brackets] are blanks to replace with your own details.
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What to fill in
- e.g. "my partner", "my roommate", "my teenage son"
- e.g. "You never help with anything and I'm sick of it"
- WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENS, WHEN
- IF YOU KNOW
- in person / text
How this prompt is built
This prompt follows the Few-Shot structure (Few-shot prompting). A few-shot prompt includes one or more worked examples of the input and the output you want, so the model can copy the pattern instead of guessing it.
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