# Write calm, neutral messages to my co-parent

Rewrite co-parenting messages so they are brief, child-focused, and less likely to start an argument.

- Topic: Personal Life & Wellbeing
- Framework: Few-Shot
- Level: Standard
- Tags: Communication, Write, Fill-in Template
- Source: https://www.thinkwithprompt.com/prompts/write-calm-neutral-messages-to-my-co-parent

## Prompt

```text
Help me write a message to my co-parent.

**What I need to communicate:** [e.g. "swap weekend", "school trip cost", "late pickups", "medical appointment"]
**Key facts:** [DATES, TIMES, AMOUNTS, WHAT THE SCHOOL OR DOCTOR SAID]
**What I'm asking for:** [SPECIFIC REQUEST AND DEADLINE]
**Our current communication:** [e.g. "tense", "mostly OK", "they reply with insults"]
**My draft (optional):** [PASTE]
**Their last message, if I'm replying:** [PASTE]

Rules, based on a "brief, informative, friendly, firm" approach:
- Stick to the child-related issue. Leave out past grievances, opinions about them, and sarcasm.
- Facts first, then one clear request with a date.
- Short. A few sentences where possible.
- Don't respond to insults or bait; ignore them and answer only the practical part.
- Assume it may be read later by a mediator or judge.

Return:
1. The message, ready to send.
2. What I removed from my draft and why (if I gave one).
3. A reply if they refuse or don't respond by the deadline.
4. A tip on keeping a simple log of exchanges.

If I mention custody orders, safety concerns for me or my child, or ongoing disputes, remind me to follow existing orders and to check with a family lawyer or mediator; if anyone is in danger, contact emergency services.
```

## What to fill in

- DATES, TIMES, AMOUNTS, WHAT THE SCHOOL OR DOCTOR SAID
- SPECIFIC REQUEST AND DEADLINE
- e.g. "tense", "mostly OK", "they reply with insults"
- PASTE

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